Work.Life balance. A familiar topic that often mystifies us as we strive to cultivate healthy relationships and meaningful work.
How can work and life co-exist so that we thrive at both? Is the pursuit of balance possible?
Throughout my career, I’ve been asked how I achieve work.life balance. And, my answer often surprises people:
I don’t. Balance is the wrong goal. A balanced life is a myth.
Consider this – how long can you stand on one foot? After a few wobbles, most of us collapse in a minute or two because sustaining permanent balance is downright impractical. So, why pursue a goal that’s unattainable?
Instead, I think about how to integrate work and life.
Work is part of my life, not separate from it. I reject a common metaphor depicting work and life as two opposites battling in a tug of war. You are one person with one life. That includes life at work and life outside of work. Therefore, in this outdated rope metaphor, you are battling you. What’s the alternative? Drop the rope. Stop battling yourself and start surrendering to the reality of competing demands. Become intentional – and ruthless – about your time, priorities, and choices. Integrate.
For example, I create weekly, monthly and quarterly priorities and block my calendar in advance with these priorities in place. They are unmovable. (I even color-code them for work, family and personal so I’m always clear on what I’m doing and when.) When my kids were young, this exercise included big meetings, travel, school plays, soccer games, workouts and more. To ensure my priorities stayed my priorities, I often had to draw boundaries, too. Things like limiting my business travel to two consecutive nights and leaving the office before 6pm to be home for family dinner were boundaries to ensure I had the time I needed with my kids. Sometimes, one part of my life might have had more importance on a given day or week. That’s inevitable. But the other parts of my life were never neglected entirely.
None of this is effortless. But unlike balance, it is possible.
It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being intentional.
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Kelly Mooney, Founder and Chief Empowerment Officer
